Free Chat VS The Cam Girl

In the scenario of Free Chat VS The Cam Girl, I'm afraid to say I think Free Chat has the best of us. For those *not* familiar with the term free chat, it's when us cam girls are on cam and in a chatroom that ANYONE can come in and chat with us. Some sites are lucky enough to have a "private" mode where only people who are doing shows can come in. Some have a more exclusive free chat where only members who have bought credits before can come in. Well, several people complain that some of us are always in the modes that aren't "free" so let me tell you why. Well, frankly it's because FREE CHAT MEMBERS SUCK. Sure, there are about a handful or two of you that we actually like on the sites and that keep us company but it always seem like the guys with the money to spend are more respectful and the ones without are the ones so demanding. I took about, literally, 30 seconds of free chat yesterday before I went back in hiding. So I'm going to go ahead and give you "free chat" guys some pointers. If you want us to like you, converse with you, and keep coming around, follow these, its THAT simple. These are the top 10 things I notice most often....


1. Don't call us "BB". That term is NOT alluring to us. We aren't even you're baby or babe to begin with, but BB? That's just being lazy.


2. We can not "open" our chests. Nor will we "open" anything else for you in free. Am immediate ignore would be..."open chest bb". We now hate you. Don't use that term ever again. Some of you are laughing because you know this is all too familiar. Even if English isn't your first language, this will not win us over, I promise.


3. Don't be OVER demanding in free chat. Do not ask us to stand up, then show our ass, then do a handbra, then ass clap, then show our feet, ect ect. If you want to see something in free chat, and aren't a paying member, ask us for one thing, and wait until either we decide to show more on our own, or someone who is a paying member comes in and asks for more. This is our JOB we do not get anything for showing things for free, but YOU do. Not very fair, right?


4. Say PLEASE. Didn't your parents teach you manners? At least if you aren't going to say please, ask nicely. You should never come in a room and have the first words out of your mouth be...."show ass". Start a conversation first, then ask us nicely. We will probably do it if you show us respect. 


5. Don't treat our sites like they are a dating site, they are not. Therefore when the first thing you are asking us is if we are single, that does not mean just because we are (or aren't) that we would be interested in you. Some of us meet fans in events, or other opportunities but that doesn't mean we are out to meet or date all of you.


6. Guys, seriously don't talk about how you will treat us/spoil us/ or other assorted things, but can't or don't even spend money on our shows or sites or videos.


7. We aren't as dumb as you think we are. Just because we are in the adult industry doesn't make us morons. I'm not even going to go into detail here, I will just leave it alone. 


8. Telling us how big (or small) your cock is, isn't going to interest us. We have seen a ton of cocks. Chances are yours isn't special. HOWEVER, most of us do LOVE to cam2cam. So take us private if you really want to show us, then maybe  at least you will catch our attention. But we aren't in free chat to "chat" about things to turn you on and get you off in free. 


9.Don't be rude to other members in our rooms, especially paying ones. Which also means your racist or prejudice comments aren't welcome. And while we are on the subject of talking, don't just come in our rooms and SIT there either.  And if we greet you and say hi, at least say hi back. Then join in the conversation. You will be kicked out if you just sit there watching us. 


10. Most importantly, treat US with respect. If you don't like us or we aren't your type, then just LEAVE. You probably aren't our type either. We don't need to hear your rude or unwelcome comments about us, our bodies, our flaws, ect. We all may not be perfect, but we love the way we are just the same. If you are going to spend time in our room, you should too.  

Officially Unemployed

Officially unemployed...well unless you count my camgirl status as employment but I don't exactly know how great that will look on a resume. Today was my last day at work. For those that don't know, I may (or may not) have worked for a pretty famous coffee chain. Let me tell you something, it's great to be free but a little frightening at the same time. I ran the store and managed about 20 employees that became more like a family the coworkers. I will miss them and my customers the most. The company disrespected me in a way I felt I couldn't continue my employment with them. I normally try to avoid getting too much into the "real" world in my "web" world but I'm sharing this story for a reason. Since I was 16 I have always lived on the edge. I have hopped up on numerous occasions and moved without putting much thought in it. I have walked out on an 8 year job without giving any notice. I had moved to NYC without a job, very little cash and hoping I wasn't being scammed since I never saw this "sublet" I had the keys to. And you know what? EVERYTHING HAS ALWAYS WORKED OUT.


 I always find a job shortly, I always meet new people, and I can adapt to any and every environment I put myself in. Some always say (or think) I'm a little nuts. They may just be right. But when it comes down to it, at least I'm happy. Which brings me to my point. So many people in this world are doing things just to survive because they think that's the only option, or suffering through a job that they hate and is making them miserable because it's "paying the bills". All I can say is don't do what you do because you have to, do what you do because you want to and have passion for it. At this particular time as weird as it sounds, I have passion for being a camgirl. Odd-yes. But I love doing it. I would have no problem doing this as long as I could if it manages to pay the bills.  Back to you guys though. My point is, don't just put up with something because you "have" to. The longer you are doing something and unsatisfied with life, the longer you waste spending your time being happy with yourself and doing something you enjoy. It's not always easy, but things will find a way to work out.  You just have to put your mind to it and you can do anything. I told one of my employees sometimes it's best to put something behind you in order to move on and start fresh. Well that's what I'm doing and I really suggest doing the same if you are ever in the same situation. So I'm ending this post knowing that I am now free once again to find the right path or for it to find me. I'm now unemployed. I am now free. I will make this work...