To be real

You know, about 80 percent of the females who work this business are pretty "real", so why is it so hard for the guys to be the same? We don't BS, we tell it like it is, and you either love it or don't. Well, I have never been the type to lie or fill up all these fake promises. If I say something, or commit to something, I'm going to be real about it. My fans and my followers that are true to me know it. I've done everything for my fans from buying a certain toy or outfit they request to learning BRITISH sign language to try to communicate to one of my deaf fans. If someone ever has a technical problem while we are camming, I am the first to make sure they get refunded or things get worked out. I always go out of my way for my fans, followers, and friends. So when people tell me something, I EXPECT them to be real about it. I'm tired of investing my time into people, and going out of my way for people when very few seem to appreciate it or reciprocate. For those that do, thanks, and trust me I notice it, but for those that don't, why waste anyone's time?! Time is too valuable to sit there with these false promises. So if you are going to make them to us, keep them or why bother? I know in this business the chances of that happening are rare, and that most of the time the best bet is to just ignore the fact and move on from it, but at the end of the day when "violetcums" or our web persona leaves and we are left with us "ourselves" we are real people with real feelings just like everyone else.

Old School, a few older pics I thought i would share

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Free Chat VS The Cam Girl

In the scenario of Free Chat VS The Cam Girl, I'm afraid to say I think Free Chat has the best of us. For those *not* familiar with the term free chat, it's when us cam girls are on cam and in a chatroom that ANYONE can come in and chat with us. Some sites are lucky enough to have a "private" mode where only people who are doing shows can come in. Some have a more exclusive free chat where only members who have bought credits before can come in. Well, several people complain that some of us are always in the modes that aren't "free" so let me tell you why. Well, frankly it's because FREE CHAT MEMBERS SUCK. Sure, there are about a handful or two of you that we actually like on the sites and that keep us company but it always seem like the guys with the money to spend are more respectful and the ones without are the ones so demanding. I took about, literally, 30 seconds of free chat yesterday before I went back in hiding. So I'm going to go ahead and give you "free chat" guys some pointers. If you want us to like you, converse with you, and keep coming around, follow these, its THAT simple. These are the top 10 things I notice most often....


1. Don't call us "BB". That term is NOT alluring to us. We aren't even you're baby or babe to begin with, but BB? That's just being lazy.


2. We can not "open" our chests. Nor will we "open" anything else for you in free. Am immediate ignore would be..."open chest bb". We now hate you. Don't use that term ever again. Some of you are laughing because you know this is all too familiar. Even if English isn't your first language, this will not win us over, I promise.


3. Don't be OVER demanding in free chat. Do not ask us to stand up, then show our ass, then do a handbra, then ass clap, then show our feet, ect ect. If you want to see something in free chat, and aren't a paying member, ask us for one thing, and wait until either we decide to show more on our own, or someone who is a paying member comes in and asks for more. This is our JOB we do not get anything for showing things for free, but YOU do. Not very fair, right?


4. Say PLEASE. Didn't your parents teach you manners? At least if you aren't going to say please, ask nicely. You should never come in a room and have the first words out of your mouth be...."show ass". Start a conversation first, then ask us nicely. We will probably do it if you show us respect. 


5. Don't treat our sites like they are a dating site, they are not. Therefore when the first thing you are asking us is if we are single, that does not mean just because we are (or aren't) that we would be interested in you. Some of us meet fans in events, or other opportunities but that doesn't mean we are out to meet or date all of you.


6. Guys, seriously don't talk about how you will treat us/spoil us/ or other assorted things, but can't or don't even spend money on our shows or sites or videos.


7. We aren't as dumb as you think we are. Just because we are in the adult industry doesn't make us morons. I'm not even going to go into detail here, I will just leave it alone. 


8. Telling us how big (or small) your cock is, isn't going to interest us. We have seen a ton of cocks. Chances are yours isn't special. HOWEVER, most of us do LOVE to cam2cam. So take us private if you really want to show us, then maybe  at least you will catch our attention. But we aren't in free chat to "chat" about things to turn you on and get you off in free. 


9.Don't be rude to other members in our rooms, especially paying ones. Which also means your racist or prejudice comments aren't welcome. And while we are on the subject of talking, don't just come in our rooms and SIT there either.  And if we greet you and say hi, at least say hi back. Then join in the conversation. You will be kicked out if you just sit there watching us. 


10. Most importantly, treat US with respect. If you don't like us or we aren't your type, then just LEAVE. You probably aren't our type either. We don't need to hear your rude or unwelcome comments about us, our bodies, our flaws, ect. We all may not be perfect, but we love the way we are just the same. If you are going to spend time in our room, you should too.